I saw this picture a few days ago on social media. Honestly, when I saw the headline along with the picture, my first thought was “Good, this guy deserved it and good for her for fighting back!” However, as I looked at the comments following it, I realized that my line of thinking; that people should strive to be a strong, capable, prepared citizen, is being replaced with a victim mentality. I understand that the comments were satirical, but they left a clear message– that doing things to try to avoid rape is pointless because you have no control over someone else’s actions. The man-hating media encourages this point-of-view, sowing divisiveness and hatred toward all those who try to respond to violent crimes proactively and preventatively. They intend to equate “decrease the chances of…” with “it’s your fault otherwise”. I know of very few people who support the proactive philosophy who think rape is the victim’s fault, and those people aren’t taken very seriously by the rest of us. Unfortunately, a lack of critical thinking (a reoccurring issue it seems), results in a public opinion mirroring that of the leftist ultra-feminists and a backlash against anyone who does not share this victim mentality.
The main fault of this mentality is that they place the only preventative measures in the hands of the assailant, stating that the only way to combat rape is by teaching would-be rapists not to rape (I’m not making that up folks, I’ve heard it many times from even the least irrational self-described feminists). It’s a fundamentally flawed proposition, and easily dismissed when applied to any other violent crime. In a robbery, it would be laughable to make the argument that the only way to prevent robbery would be to inform the aggressor on the evils of robbery. They already know that it’s wrong, they just choose to do it anyway. Rape is wrong. Everyone knows that to force yourself on another person is not only against the law, but disgusting and inadmissible. Those who commit the act and then try to justify it are like people who commit murder and feign insanity. It’s not that they don’t know it’s wrong, they just won’t admit it because then they’ll go to jail. There are bad people! I know it’s hard to believe, but it’s a sad truth of life– some people just don’t care about you. By saying that the only way to combat rape is to educate people on how it’s wrong is to set out to create morality and conscience where none exist. It’s a fruitless endeavor that has been tried and tested over and over again throughout history.
I would offer a counter-proposition. That the only way to combat rape…is to combat rape. A victim mentality promotes a feeling of helplessness, I would promote the opposite. Women are smart and resourceful. What they lack in physical strength they make up for in resolve — this has been proven by the REAL feminist movements in history. It is never a woman’s fault for getting raped, just as it is never someone’s fault for getting mugged or murdered. However, doing things that make them an easier target than the person next to them helps a determined assailant to make the decision to go after them. And so although it is not a woman’s actions that cause her to be raped, it is often the person who is next to her decision’s that cause them not to be. In this way, although the fault does not lie with the victim, the onus still does.
And so proactively defending against rape should be allowed and encouraged just like it is for a mugging, or a robbery, or any other crime that the victim has no control over. If the feminist philosophy is truly about equality, then a plan in which women can defend themselves from attackers seems like the obvious choice over one in which they must rely on others to not hurt them.
“Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.”